You are not alone. Ever. Whether it be because of your ability to reach out for support, or just the knowing that there is always someone out there with a history of feelings, experiences and life events who could relate. You are never alone. It could even be so much as your own faith in something greater that will be there to guide you, if you are brave enough to open up.
The next time you catch yourself saying...
¨I am the only one...¨
¨I just have to figure this out on my own...¨
¨No one understands...¨
Ask yourself, really....
Is that true? Can you be sure?
How do you feel when you say that to yourself?
If you are saying any of the above, and feeling pretty nasty inside...reach out, connect. Make a shift, because it only goes downhill if you don´t.
Here´s what to do when you catch yourself falling into a pattern of terminal uniqueness:
1. Before this even occurs, write a list of those that you trust, respect and can confide in in your life and enlist these people as your Emergency Support Team. Tell them why you are looking for support and what you´d like them to provide you with when you call for emergency support, whether it be a reminder of your awesomeness or progress, or just an ear to listen. Offer to do the same for them. Make a buddy system out of it, and USE the list. Post it where you can see it.
2. Join a club, community group, spiritual group that meets on a regular basis. Make that commitment to and for yourself to connect with like minded people. Not only will this improve your chances of finding love, it will also give you a sense of belonging and allow you to feel understood.
3. Begin to catch yourself, what are your ¨terminal uniqueness patterns¨.... where do you feel like you are all alone? In catching yourself you can begin to stop hiding, allowing yourself to feel what you feel, and then doing something about it to shift that energy.