I knew it. (and not in a good way)
Because from the beginning, we had a ¨gut feeling¨...
That we should have said no... to a first date, second date...a third date. Or that you we were hanging out with someone that we knew was ¨comfortable¨ but not at all fulfilling, so we hung on, unhappily.
There was something that was off. I´m not talking an ¨I don´t like his hair¨ type feeling, in fact, that is not a feeling...its more of a judgment.
What I´m talking about here is a feeling within your body, that you can´t really explain, that says, I could be doing better things with my time, or I just don´t feel right when I´m with them. It´s not an emotionally charged feeling. It´s an inner certainly.
I believe that when you know, you KNOW.
But, that sometimes that KNOWING requires some cultivation. Acts of trusting ourselves - of experimenting with what and who we say ¨yes¨ to.
So, here are a few things to try:
1. ¨Trusting your gut¨ grows with time. I believe and am finding, its like building up new muscles. It´s not perfect at first. But keep working at it. If something or someone doesn´t feel right for you - say no to the date or investment of time with that person, you time is precious. Treat it so.
2. Check in with your body on a regular basis. How is it feeling with the person you are with? or the activity you are doing? If you are constantly feeling icky inside with that person or in that situation, find a way to shift or get out. Going out of our comfort zone is one thing, but needlessly feeling bad is another.
3. Track it - create a journal dedicated to tracking your gut feelings and what you did. It can be fun to look back to see how you´ve grown and changed - but ALSO, where attention goes...energy flows! (as we know) If you put your attention on trusting your gut...it just might begin to happen.