And have you ever gone through ALL the above, just to realize it wasn´t the right fit. And inside you knew it from the get go, but you didn´t listen to yourself.
I´d like to take a moment to equate the interview process to that of dating. I have found there are quite a few overlaps between the dating process and the interview process. As we date and quite often if we have felt frustration, loneliness and lack...we start to feel like we NEED, and so our preparation and behavior during your dates are consumed with getting the other person to accept and approve of you.
Well, if you resonate with what I´m saying at all... take a moment to back it up so that you can turn that train around.
Here are some tips to embrace your awesomeness as you find yourself out in the dating world.
1. Know that you don´t NEED a partner, and less someone just for the sake of having someone. I´ve heard Kristin Morelli say that we can´t save each other, only serve each other. Remember, although we all naturally want a partner, its important to observe what is driving that desire. Take a moment to ask yourself, would you like a partner to compliment your life, learn and grow with to bring out both of your most fabulous selves, or are you just lonely and want someone to fill the void. Checking your motives is key!
2. As you ¨prepare¨for your dates - stay authentic and create clarity on what you WANT. What are your negotiables and non-negotiables? Remember, we can´t change anyone but ourselves, so if you have certain non-negotiables....be clear on why and check in if flags come up early on in your time together.
3. Finally, on your dates, remember it is equally, if not more important that you be true to yourself and authentic on your dates. Honor yourself and your preferences and pass on pretending to be someone you are not. That just feels wrong. Be and embrace your true self.
Does any of this resonate with you? How have you embraced your authenticity on dates? How did if feel?