We are not talk about the kind of love, like...oh, my goodness, I love your new shoes type love. We are speaking of a deep rooted unconditional love that begins with you.
How often when we are lonely do we say, ¨screw it¨, and just take whatever we can get. We do it with with romantic partners and also in other aspects of our life. Far too often, we make an ¨aw, screw it¨ decision, only to find ourselves returning to a place of loneliness and hurt.
These action comes from a place of fear... fears of loneliness, heartbreak, etc. Not love. When we act from fear we continue the cycle of ickiness and negativity. It´s very important that when intentionally attracting a soulmate that we begin to make decisions from a place of deep love and respect for ourselves and other.
Tina says, ¨who needs a heart, when a heart can be broken.¨ While heartbreak stinks, it passes, always. It is far more effective to feel into it, than to search for the band aid..or often times even worse, denying love and going into auto-pilot! We must allow love and tenderness to come in in order to heal and to feel what needs to be felt.
So what is the cure for a broken, lonely heart? LOVE. What´s love got to do with it? EVERYTHING! When we are feeling heartbroken and lonely it is extremely important, that instead of trying to fill the void with another meaningless relationship or wasting time on social media (just to give 2 small examples), we allow Love to come through!
Here are a few ideas for the next time you have the urge to squirm away from Love:
1. Journal - write out what is bothering you, why you are feeling lonely, what has happened? Write it all out. No judgment, no censoring, writing faster than normal. Write down your feelings, thoughts, emotions, the story. You can release it or read it (for the brave soul who´d like to learn more about themselves)...this is just for you and not meant for anyone else's eyes.
2. Give yourself a massage - the next time you feel lonely give yourself a foot massage (at least) and more if you´d like! Do it with love, thanking your body for all that it allows you to do and honoring all the ways it gets you through the day! So often we beat up on our bodies telling ourselves they are not perfect. For just a few minutes, honor and respect its perfection just as it is.
3. Get some fresh air - go out in nature, take a walk. Not only will you got some fresh and clean oxygen, BREATHE. You´ll be getting exercise which your body, mind and spirit will appreciate. Notice the change in perspective by taking this time for yourself.
Though this actions may seem small, they are an extremely powerful way to create a new standard for yourself of love and respect.
Which one are you going to try today?