Don´t be fooled. They are not serving as. (I know that one is a toughie to accept!)
There is a line, I believe its from A Course In Miracles that says, ¨Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?¨
We all know what really happens if we hold onto these feelings. We isolate ourselves in one way or another which brings us down, WAY down - energetically, physically and emotionally. Being and needing to be right, even if we are ¨right¨, has a price.
We all have hurts. We´ve all been hurt and have hurt. Done wrong and been wronged. It´s human. It´s what we do from that place of wrong and hurt that really counts. When we can adopt these experiences as learning opportunities and adjust accordingly, we empower ourselves and create massive shifts.
Here are a few things you can do to lighten the load:
1. Write a letter to a ex expressing your anger and sadness and of course every other emotion and feeling that comes up. Get it all out on paper. When its all out, you can re-read it if you´d like to see what came out and look at it from objective eyes. DO NOT send this letter. You could create a ceremony to burn it and release it. I find this to be most helpful in releasing that which no longer serves me.
2. Write a list of what you have learned from that relationship. Write down what you DID enjoy and appreciate and that which you came to know that did not serve you and would be a dealbreaker in the future. Knowing this is power as you move forward.
3. Remind yourself that your past relationships do not have to indicate what is possible for you in the future and through taking in each ex as a learning experience, you are preparing yourself to invite in ¨The One¨.