I give up.
Whatever is supposed to happen, will happen.
Have you ever caught yourself saying any of this?
Truth is, giving up is not the appropriate strategy when looking to attracting lasting love. When we give up our power of decision, we often end up giving IN to things that don´t feel right and become passive.
What I learned and uncovered over time is that if I knew what I had to do, that means complete clarity, and with clarity....what is stopping me?
Hmmm...I would have to say...nothing, if I were being honest. WOW baby. That is cool, exciting...and just a tad bit scary.
In not clarifying what we want, we play a passive role in our life - living relationships that are not fulfilling and often void of passion and authenticity.
When we are on our pursuit for loving and lasting relationships, in order to attract lasting love we must create clarity around what we DO want. Courageous Clarity I like to say. I have come to believe that clarity does require courage, but that its well worth it.
Here are some tips for creating clarity:
1. Write a list of what you know you DO want in your relationships. Keep this and refine it as you go, its okay for this list to change and grow. Just as everything else, your list will move through an evolution - you'll notice your ¨must haves¨ as well as your ¨i´m flexible´s¨ over time. This is very powerful.
2. Practice ¨Worst Case Scenario¨ with yourself or a trusted friend. If you were to become crystal clear about what you wanted and what your next step would be, what is the worst that can happen? This is a powerful exercise because quite often, the unknown is what keeps us afraid and calling out what could result, good and bad is a great way to bring light to ¨the monster under the bed.¨
3. Appreciate what you´ve done up until now, no matter how small the action you have taken. Speak kindly to what you´ve done to take care of yourself, attract love in your life, and de-clutter your environment. Chances are you´ve already been taking action and it´s time to acknowledge yourself for it.