Today we’ll be discussing bringing appreciation and gratitude to our current partnership. This is a great tool for ANY couple to incorporate into their relationship, especially if they find they are bickering, nagging or not feeling very connected with one another.
But I will say, if you are a couple looking to explore consensual non-monogamy, or you are looking for ways to "prep" for deep conversation, this is a perfect way to soften each other up and show how much gratitude you have for each other and that you value giving them your attention.
In this week's I'd like to encourage you to define your relationship desires.
You might be thinking, "Yeah yeah... I know, I know," and then just click onto the next video but if you haven't sat down to ask yourself, "What would my ideal partnership look like?" or "If things were as good as they could get in my partnership, what would be different?" I recommend pulling out a notebook and pen and taking some time to journal on these questions.
If you are new to defining your desires, it can feel foreign and you can draw a blank, and that's okay. Getting clear on our desires can take time to refine, and actually it is an always evolving process. If we are alive and breathing, chances are that as we learn and grow our desires change and evolve. So I recommend continuing to come back to this practice again and again.
Often for our relationships to improve we have to get to a point where we both know what we want and how to successfully communicate what that is and...
In this video, Jaclyn shares an important first question to ask yourself if you are considering infidelity or exploring non-monogamy with or without the consent of your partners. This video is the first of a series, diving into how to go about exploring sexual desires that venture outside our monogamous partnerships.
Today I share an important concept I learned from Communication and Relationship expert, Dr. Pat Allen in her book, Getting to I Do (website link below.) It was a game changer for me and something I think every woman and man needs to know about each other and what brings out our best.
Dr. Pat Allen - https://www.drpatallen.com/
In this video I share my favorite tool I use on a daily basis to clear out thoughts and beliefs that no longer serving me. I'm taking about the thoughts and beliefs that I learned from someone else that only weigh me down and make me feel bad about my desires.
I first learned about this tool through Money Mindset Mentor, Denise Duffield-Thomas. As I started to use the tool, I realized just how powerful it is and how wide its application can go.
As I mentioned I use this tool A LOT and find it so incredibly helpful that it truly is one of my favorite tools in general for embracing a greater vision for myself.
Give it a try and let me know if you feel the same!
If you'd like to learn more about Denise, you can check her out here. https://luckybitch.com/
In this video I share a life-changing practice I've used to check-in with what is holding me back from having permission to express and live out my sexual desires. Or any desire for that matter!
I've found this step to be truly the first step to any lasting change when it comes to our beliefs about who we are and what is possible for the future.
Check out the video and I'd love to know if you agree.
When I was getting ready to publish my first book, I started to rub up against fears of what people would think of me. Being that this book is about my relationship to sex, desire, and intimacy, I knew it was going to have its critics and probably some pretty strong ones.
There was one word in particular that I got really nervous about people calling me. It made me feel nervous and question whether or not I really wanted to follow through with publishing.
Luckily, I met someone who gave me a challenge to shift my perspective and embrace the thing I was resisting.
In the video above, you'll find out what that word is and what I realized about my resistance to it. I'll also give you the same challenge I was given as it was a game changers for me in terms of my relationship to my sexual side.
If you've ever struggled with low libido I'd like to share one of my favorite ways to think of my relationship to my sex drive and and what it takes to keep it alive.
If you've struggled with low libido, this video shares a great way to think about your sex drive and one of my favorite ways to spark a low libido.
What do you do to keep your sex drive alive?
If you've ever considered consensual non-monogamy but also assumed yourself bad or wrong for wanting it, then this video blog is for you.
You are not bad or wrong for wanting to explore consensual non-monogamy with your partner. In fact, I've found it can be an extremely beneficial thing for partners to explore. Check out the video to learn about some of the benefits I've found.
I'd also love to know, if you have explored non-monogamy, have you experienced the same benefits? And if you haven't explored it and you want to, what's holding you back?
If you are anything like me, sharing your sexual desires is not or has not always been easy and you might have a list of reasons in your head about why you prefer to put it off... indefinitely.
Today I'd like to make a case for sharing your desire and give you a prompt to get you into motion.
Sharing our sexual desires in our intimate relationships, and amongst close friends and support groups can be a tremendously freeing and worthwhile venture.
Check out the video above for inspiration and to learn more.