If you struggle (or have ever struggled) with feelings of resentment, today’s video is for you. I have found resentment, although it can feel quite crappy to experience, is a pretty amazing teacher and reminder that we have taken our attention off of what we need as individuals. Check out the video as I share a simple practice and perspective that helps me tune into what has lead to feelings of resentment and how to begin to dissolve them.
Can you relate to this idea of losing yourself in relationship? What helps you dissolve resentment when it comes up? Shoot me an email and let me know at [email protected] or come on over to the YouTube video link and leave a comment.
In this video we discuss boundaries and how to start to negotiate a safe and consensual exploration of non-monogamy. We talk about not only physical safety boundaries but also emotional ones as well.
I'd like to hear your thoughts - what questions do you have about boundaries? Or is there an additional aspect of boundaries you like to consider? Email me and let me know at [email protected]
A lot of times without even realizing it I can get into a mode of doing almost robotically and in such a head space that all I'm thinking about is forward progress rather than what is actually happening in my experience and body in a given moment.
I've found that when I'm in a "doing mode" in my relationship I can get myself into trouble (aka... unnecessary bickering or fighting) because I'm not present to what is happening between us.
What I've learned is that getting present to the emotions that both my partner and I am feeling is a pretty awesome skill to develop and it can make a tremendous difference in the connection I feel with my partner.
In this weeks blog, I speak more about connecting with both our partner and our own emotions through developing the skill of empathy. Give it a try and let me know how it goes!
Do you ever find that you and your partner are having reoccurring disagreements you can't find your way out of?
This week I'm continuing to share communication tools to improve our dialogue with our partners. This is a tool that has made a huge difference for my partner and I. It involves connecting with each other in a way that we honor what our partner is saying and let them know how we could understand their point of view.
If you don't use this tool, called validation, watch the video, give it a try and then pop on over to the YouTube video link and let me know how it goes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C4OvGz0Rrvs&feature=youtu.be
Today we are discussing how to communicate with your partner to diffuse painful conversations and create more connection. If you have ever found yourself super frustrated that you are having the same reoccurring argument again and again this video is a must watch.
If you'd like to leave a comment and share your experience with the practice of mirroring, make sure to come on over to YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J2EEiM_yerI&feature=youtu.be
Or feel free to email me at: [email protected]
Today we’ll be discussing bringing appreciation and gratitude to our current partnership. This is a great tool for ANY couple to incorporate into their relationship, especially if they find they are bickering, nagging or not feeling very connected with one another.
But I will say, if you are a couple looking to explore consensual non-monogamy, or you are looking for ways to "prep" for deep conversation, this is a perfect way to soften each other up and show how much gratitude you have for each other and that you value giving them your attention.
In this week's I'd like to encourage you to define your relationship desires.
You might be thinking, "Yeah yeah... I know, I know," and then just click onto the next video but if you haven't sat down to ask yourself, "What would my ideal partnership look like?" or "If things were as good as they could get in my partnership, what would be different?" I recommend pulling out a notebook and pen and taking some time to journal on these questions.
If you are new to defining your desires, it can feel foreign and you can draw a blank, and that's okay. Getting clear on our desires can take time to refine, and actually it is an always evolving process. If we are alive and breathing, chances are that as we learn and grow our desires change and evolve. So I recommend continuing to come back to this practice again and again.
Often for our relationships to improve we have to get to a point where we both know what we want and how to successfully communicate what that is and...
In this video, Jaclyn shares an important first question to ask yourself if you are considering infidelity or exploring non-monogamy with or without the consent of your partners. This video is the first of a series, diving into how to go about exploring sexual desires that venture outside our monogamous partnerships.
Today I share an important concept I learned from Communication and Relationship expert, Dr. Pat Allen in her book, Getting to I Do (website link below.) It was a game changer for me and something I think every woman and man needs to know about each other and what brings out our best.
Dr. Pat Allen - https://www.drpatallen.com/
In this video I share my favorite tool I use on a daily basis to clear out thoughts and beliefs that no longer serving me. I'm taking about the thoughts and beliefs that I learned from someone else that only weigh me down and make me feel bad about my desires.
I first learned about this tool through Money Mindset Mentor, Denise Duffield-Thomas. As I started to use the tool, I realized just how powerful it is and how wide its application can go.
As I mentioned I use this tool A LOT and find it so incredibly helpful that it truly is one of my favorite tools in general for embracing a greater vision for myself.
Give it a try and let me know if you feel the same!
If you'd like to learn more about Denise, you can check her out here. https://luckybitch.com/